arundhoti and the world

What do we need to be HAPPY  -  I googled this line , I got the answer we need to achieve our goals , get contentment in relationships , money matters and other success goals and self acceptance . Leaving the term "self acceptance" , if we see the other terms , these all talk about some kind of success to be happy in life . My question - what if we are not successful and fail in life for a long period of time , how we manage ourselves  . During that long period of not being successful , how we manage ourselves to be happy or peaceful or come in terms with my undesirable situation . Now another question - why we think , the situation is undesirable -how we react if we do not get that thing .We become  unhappy  . To be HAPPY - we need to accept , the undesirable external  condition around us as it is . We should not hamper our enthusiasm about life and its components if they are not working according to our wish or thoughts or whims . What I think - to be happy